The Secret of a Long Lasting Relationship and a happy marriageĀ 

How to have a long lasting relationship? How to have a happy marriage? These are just some questions we have in mind once we failed on relationship or before getting into a relationship.

Every couple wants a happy relationship for a lifetime. There are some who succeed and still being happy together for many years and there are also some who chose to part ways. Every relationship is not prefect, there will be lots of ups and downs. But the most important is you still choose each other  and grow old together. 

Being on a 3rd serious relationship, I’ve really learned a lot from my partner and started to understand the misunderstandings and flaws I have never seen before in my failed previous relationships. 

Here I share with you what it actually takes to have a happy long lasting relationship;

Don’t live according to her/his preferences and expectations, true love is accepting someone completely including your flaws.

Appreciation is important. Appreciate her for waking up early to help you preparing for work, she may be still too sleepy but forced herself to get up for you. Appreciate him for providing for you and for the living despite of your independence, he may be is tired and wanted to rest but chose to work to give you both a better and secured future. Those are just some efforts we rarely see and forget to appreciate. Thank each other frequently, showing appreciation motivates your partner.

Giving up is not the key when something’s wrong in your relationship. True love is more than just a feeling, its a commitment. Making the relationship to work is a choice.

Try giving hug to each other before discussing an issue.  It will more likely give you love and understanding on the issue than ending up with a fight.

Listen to your partner before you make any comment whether you agree or not. Sometimes the other one is Shouting cause  of desperation to be heard and understood when the other one is not trying to be open and listen. Never closed your door for him/her.

Stand up for each other. Never ever say anything bad against your partner to anybody even to your friends. They may understood it differently and you’ve given them a bad image of your partner and its too late for you to take your words back. He/She is your better half, your own reflection. Not your enemy.

Make him/her your bestfriend, giving enough privacy but comfortably being around each other like there is nothing to hide and check. Always be there for each other and as a team. Live, laugh and love like how friends should be.

Give some freedom. You will not always have the same interest, give each other some time to enjoy his/her own interests. Choking is not the way to be always together. Being there for each other is a willingness not a stress.

Make time for each other. This is something very important because you are creating memories together.  In bad times you may forget how much you love your partner but the memories you have together will remind you and bring you back closer again. 

Avoid expecting things from your partner. Expectations leads to disappointments.  Rather, appreciate what you have and live with it. Being contented makes you happy.

But of course, if the relationship really does not simply work for both of you, don’t be too sad because it only means that out there, someone else is waiting for you. Someone you can call  Mr. Right, your one true love.

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